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If You are Single and Over 35 (Or Over 45, Or Over 55), Now is the Time to Give THIS a Try ...
by Rachel G. Baldino, MSW, LCSW for

I don't know about you, but these days I'm hearing more and more online dating success stories.

As a matter of fact, in my own social circle, I know several people-including a close family member-who have met their significant others online, and who are understandably thrilled that they "took the plunge" into the world of online dating.

After all, if you are over the age of 35, do you really have a huge interest in going out to singles bars?

I'm guessing probably not.

Many people like to meet potential partners through mutual friends, and this remains a very viable option for some. But there is always the danger that it might not work out, which can sometimes cause problems.

Of course, you can always hope to meet someone at work, or in an adult education class, or at a hobby club; and once again, these are very viable options for some people.

There are now many online dating services specifically designed to serve clients over 50.

But more and more people of all ages (including many people over the age of 50) are turning to the Internet as a highly effective tool for meeting potential mates. And fortunately, there are now many websites that cater specifically to this age group, such as:

Online Dating Is a Great Option for Shy People

Susan Dunn, MA, is a Life Coach and the author of the ebook, Midlife Dating Survival Manual for Women. In her web article, "Midlife Dating: Where To Meet the Men," posted at an online dating community called, she points out that "The Internet seems to have been created for introverts. For dating, it allows a slower pace, in writing, that introverts love."

She also mentions that one reason that women in particular should consider online dating is that there are currently "many more men seeking online."

Ms. Dunn recommends that you: "See them face-to-face. No one really looks like their photo, no matter how current, and while appearance isn't the deal-breaker for most of us, that illusive thing called 'chemistry' is, so get it over with. This is the best way to check out their health, as well."

Online Dating Is Both An Emotional AND A Financial Investment

Not only will you be putting your heart on the line with online dating, but another factor to keep in mind is that virtually all of these services charge a membership fee. This means that you will need to closely examine all of the features and offerings of each site before you decide which one-or two, or more-that you would like to join.

When it comes to online dating, your true love may be just a few clicks away!

Considering the financial and emotional investment involved, if any of your friends, colleagues, and/or acquaintances are currently exploring the online dating arena, ask them for their totally honest feedback about each of the online dating services they have tried in the past or are using right now.

Four Basic Online Dating Safety Tips

  1. NEVER give out any personal information to a new online acquaintance, such as your real email address, where you live, your phone number, or any of your business or financial information. (Once you sign up, many online dating services will provide you with an anonymous email address exclusively for use on their site).

  2. ALWAYS meet in a public place for the first time, and inform the person that you have told a friend that the meeting is taking place.

  3. If someone does not send you a photo upon request, or keeps canceling that initial face-to-face meeting, that person may be engaging in some sort of deceptive dating practices and probably ought to be avoided.

  4. Proceed with "cautious optimism" once you start exchanging email messages with someone on a regular basis, and remember to keep all of your personal details to yourself until you are absolutely positive that the person is trustworthy.

Maximize Your Results with a Dating Profile
That Truly Stands Out From The Pack

Virtually all online dating services provide their members with space to post their "dating profiles." Remember never to write anything in your profile that is too personal or too revealing. Safety always comes first!

  1. Consider including a recent photograph that is flattering and well-lit, but that also accurately represents your current physical appearance. (People who include photos of themselves almost always get higher response rates than those who do not). If you prefer not to post a photo, you will still get responses, just not as many.

  2. Ask a friend to proofread your profile for stylistic, grammatical, and/or spelling errors. Potential dates are more likely to respond to carefully crafted and well written profiles.

  3. Include every single one of your interests, and don't leave any questions blank. People might think you are being evasive. The more descriptive you are about your likes and dislikes, the better your chances are of hearing from like-minded people.

  4. Be aware of exactly what you are looking for-something serious, or something more casual-right at the outset, and be as clear as possible about what you are seeking. People deeply appreciate total honesty in this area.

Recommended Reading:

The Powerful Influencing Effects of People's Faces On Your Behavior

The Top Seven Signs That Someone Is Lying To You

The Top Six Signs That Someone Is Physically Attracted To You

Aging Gracefully: Enjoy a Vital, Fulfilling Life Regardless of Age

How To Make All Your Relationships Work


Spicy Senior Singles

Life Coach Susan Dunn

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