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The Top Six Signs that Someone is Physically Attracted to You

At times, and perhaps more often than not, decoding the opposite sex can seem nearly impossible. But for those of you out there wondering if your secret crush has their eye on you, or whether your mate is really into you, take heed. Studies suggest that up to 93 percent of our communication stems from nonverbal cues, according to Mari Smith, a relationship coach, and with a little bit of careful observation, you can tell if someone is physically attracted to you.


Both men and women use a smile and eye contact to let someone know they've caught their eye.

"For all of our technological advances and psychological insights, when it comes to the silent signs of sexual attraction, we are no different than beasts. For the past 500 million years, every member of the animal kingdom has utilized certain signals to communicate their interest in mating ... Seeing any one of them may signify physical attraction," says David Givens, author of Love Signals: A Practical Field Guide to the Body Language of Courtship and an anthropologist who specializes in nonverbal communication.

According to Givens, there are four major signs that someone is attracted to you -- if you see one, it's a good sign, but if you see all four, it's "compelling evidence" that someone's into you.

  1. Lifted shoulders: Biologists call this involuntary movement the "cute response." It reveals a softer, almost child-like side to a person that's meant to let the other person know that you're open to them.

  2. Pigeon toes: Turning the toes inward is a sign that someone is both attracted and somewhat intimidated by you. They're unconsciously shrinking their body so as to appear less threatening.

  3. Palms up: A person who's interested will typically have their palms face up when gesturing or at rest. This act displays openness and vulnerability -- both signs that the person is friendly and approachable.

  4. The forehead bow: If a person tips their head slightly forward and looks up at you from under their brow, they're inviting you to come closer.

But there are other major signs too.

  1. Dilated pupils: If someone is looking at something or someone they like, their pupils dilate (or get bigger), according to University of Chicago studies. It's a completely involuntary response, one that, says Dr. Eckhard Hess of the university, has nothing to do with the amount of light in a room or even the same part of the nervous system that normally controls this.

  2. Feet pointing toward you: "The key to a man's heart isn't his stomach. It's his feet," says Lisa Daily, author of Stop Getting Dumped! All You Need to Know to Make Men Fall Madly in Love With You and Marry 'The One' in 3 Years or Less. "Watch the feet of the person you're attracted to. People who are attracted to each other subconsciously try to 'line up' with the other person. Where the toes point, the heart follows."

Men and Women Give Different Signs Too

Forehead Bow

The Forehead Bow: A surefire sign she's interested in you. Men do this one too.

The above signs apply to both genders, but other physical cues are much more gender-oriented. If a man is interested in you, he will:

  • Smile

  • Make eye contact for an extended period of time

  • Engage in grooming behaviors like straightening his tie

  • Stand or sit upright

  • Thrust his shoulders back and his chest outward

  • Make comments about his job, cash, car, etc.

On the other hand, a woman will do the following:

  • Smile (just like men)

  • Make eye contact for an extended period of time (same as men)

  • Lean toward you

  • Expose her neck, hands or palms

  • Flip or twirl her hair (with her hands or by twisting her head)

  • Cross and uncross her legs

Ready to head out and watch for some of these signs firsthand? You'll need to know what to wear ... According to Color Consultant Leatrice Eiseman, director of the Pantone Color Institute, women who want to appear approachable should wear a pinkish peach. She says the color is "very flattering to most skin tones, it gives you healthy glow [and adds] a little vulnerability, which brings out something protective in men."

As for men, you should wear blue. Men who choose this color often are "stable, faithful, constant and always there," Eiseman says.

Recommended Reading

How to Make All Your Relationships Work

The Powerful Influencing Effect of People's Faces on Your Behavior

Sources Body Language

What Your Date is Thinking: Reading the Signs

Psychology Today: Flirting Fascination

Stop Getting Dumped

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