The Top Six Signs that Someone is Physically Attracted to You
At times, and perhaps more often than not, decoding the opposite
sex can seem nearly impossible. But for those of you out there
wondering if your secret crush has their eye on you, or whether
your mate is really into you, take heed. Studies suggest that
up to 93 percent of our communication stems from nonverbal
cues, according to Mari Smith, a relationship coach, and with
a little bit of careful observation, you can tell if someone
is physically attracted to you.
Both men and women use a smile and eye contact to let
someone know they've caught their eye.
"For all of our technological advances and psychological
insights, when it comes to the silent signs of sexual attraction,
we are no different than beasts. For the past 500 million
years, every member of the animal kingdom has utilized certain
signals to communicate their interest in mating ... Seeing
any one of them may signify physical attraction," says
David Givens, author of Love
Signals: A Practical Field Guide to the Body Language of Courtship
and an anthropologist who specializes in nonverbal communication.
According to Givens, there are four major signs that someone
is attracted to you -- if you see one, it's a good sign, but
if you see all four, it's "compelling evidence"
that someone's into you.
Lifted shoulders: Biologists call this involuntary
movement the "cute response." It reveals a softer,
almost child-like side to a person that's meant to let
the other person know that you're open to them.
Pigeon toes: Turning the toes inward is a sign
that someone is both attracted and somewhat intimidated
by you. They're unconsciously shrinking their body so
as to appear less threatening.
Palms up: A person who's interested will typically
have their palms face up when gesturing or at rest. This
act displays openness and vulnerability -- both signs
that the person is friendly and approachable.
The forehead bow: If a person tips their head
slightly forward and looks up at you from under their
brow, they're inviting you to come closer.
But there are other major signs too.
Dilated pupils: If someone is looking at something
or someone they like, their pupils dilate (or get bigger),
according to University of Chicago studies. It's a completely
involuntary response, one that, says Dr. Eckhard Hess
of the university, has nothing to do with the amount of
light in a room or even the same part of the nervous system
that normally controls this.
Feet pointing toward you: "The key to a
man's heart isn't his stomach. It's his feet," says
Lisa Daily, author of Stop
Getting Dumped! All You Need to Know to Make Men Fall
Madly in Love With You and Marry 'The One' in 3 Years
or Less. "Watch the feet of the person you're
attracted to. People who are attracted to each other subconsciously
try to 'line up' with the other person. Where the toes
point, the heart follows."
Men and Women Give Different Signs Too
The Forehead Bow: A surefire sign she's interested
in you. Men do this one too.
The above signs apply to both genders, but other physical
cues are much more gender-oriented. If a man is interested
in you, he will:
Make eye contact for an extended period of time
Engage in grooming behaviors like straightening his tie
Stand or sit upright
Thrust his shoulders back and his chest outward
Make comments about his job, cash, car, etc.
On the other hand, a woman will do the following:
Smile (just like men)
Make eye contact for an extended period of time (same
Lean toward you
Expose her neck, hands or palms
Flip or twirl her hair (with her hands or by twisting
Cross and uncross her legs
Ready to head out and watch for some of these signs firsthand?
You'll need to know what to wear ... According to Color
Consultant Leatrice Eiseman, director of the Pantone Color
Institute, women who want to appear approachable should wear
a pinkish peach. She says the color is "very flattering
to most skin tones, it gives you healthy glow [and adds] a
little vulnerability, which brings out something protective
As for men, you should wear blue. Men who choose this color
often are "stable, faithful, constant and always there,"
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